Don’t Be Afraid to Make the First Move

Making the first move can be a very effective strategy in creating the relationships you want.


Teronie Donaldson

2 years ago | 1 min read


If you have an opportunity to make the first move in your relationships then go ahead and do it. Waiting for the other person to act may not happen. Taking the initiative is critical.

Even though we are in the age of Social media, most people have strained and superficial relationships. It is easy to have many followers and fans, but how many are genuine connections?

Even with friends and family — the most important people in our lives. Sometimes our relationships are strained.

This strain is because most people wait for the other person to “make the first move.”

  • They wait for “hello” instead of saying it first.
  • They wait for a time to meet up for coffee, instead of setting it.
  • They wait for clarity in communication, and when that doesn’t happen, things get a bit distant.

Sometimes it is a pride thing.

Sometimes it is a “not giving a damn” thing.

And sometimes, it is just a situation where way too much time has passed, and it may seem too late.

If you want to have those deep and meaningful connections with your friends, family, or acquaintances — you have to make that first move.

You will be grateful for it, and they will be as well because they didn’t have to make the first move themselves.

Ways to make that first move;

  • Say Hello, What’s up or whatever greeting you are used to.
  • Make the first call.
  • Congratulate the person on a recent achievement.
  • Send the first text.
  • Organize a Meetup/Virtually if you cannot do it in person.
  • Compliment them genuinely.
  • Show your appreciation and celebrate their wins.
  • Read their posts or articles and comment on them.

The best thing with online platforms like Facebook, Instagram, Linkedin, Twitter, Tealfeed, etc, is that it is easier than ever to initiate the first contact.

Either way, don’t be afraid to make that first move; you will be glad you did.



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Teronie Donaldson

Writer | Motivator | Reading Habits Coach | Content Creator. Around Me, Everyone Wins!







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