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A Few Life Facts That Will Challenge You To Start Taking Your Life Seriously

What you make of your life is up to you: You have no excuse.


Joshua Idegbere

5 months ago | 3 min read

The earlier you start, the better

“You have to do your own growing no matter how tall your grandfather was.” ~ Abraham Lincoln.|PEXEL

Its addens me to see young people live in such a manner that if you project their life to 10 years, they will either be a burden to their spouse, a broke drug addict, an unemployable unemployed, or imprisoned.

A few years ago, a friend was telling me about the story of a cousin of his who dropped out of school and also refused to learn any skill.

After a careful interrogation with this young man, they realized that the reason for his misbehavior was because of the euphoria that being the first son of his father automatically translates to his being the heir to all the wealth and possession of his well connected and influential father who's a politician.

To him, there was no reason to work while he is potentially the owner of the enormous wealth of his dad.

Before the Dad died, he fell a victim to a bad business deal that left him only a small portion of his great wealth and possession.

As if that wasn't enough, his kidneys failed, and he was on routine dialysis for years. On worsening of the condition, they flew him to India for expert management.

Unfortunately, a few months after he returned he died.

Following the loss of the politician, the financial crisis of his family worsened and that young man got involved in a kidnapping. Soon after, he was caught and was sentenced.

Now he's behind bars for the remaining days of his life.

Life at its core is personal

Abraham Lincoln said it better:

“You have to do your own growing no matter how tall your grandfather was.” ~ Abraham Lincoln.

It is a good thing and to your advantage to have come from a wealthy and influential family.

A good family is more or less a backbone that keeps us standing, especially when negative situations of life try to break us.

But you also have to be aware that there is a limit to how much you can take possession of what belongs to your parents or siblings.

Even if you're family, if a particular thing, let us say a car, is not yours, you won't have the freedom to use it when, and how you need to as compared to if it were yours.

I remember when I didn't have mobility. Most often than not, I had to use my elder brother's. Because he too does have schedules, I had to return the car home at a particular time no matter what. I didn't really have that freedom to use that car until I had mine.

If you have been slacking at life because you hail from a wealthy background or something, you need to stop that now and start building something for yourself. You need to do your own growing, no matter how tall your parents are.

You need the freedom that comes with ownership.

Nobody owes you anything

There was a particular man that, despite his wealth, never ask me to keep the change when I run errands for him.

At a time, I got really angry at his level of greediness. " How can you be so rich and not ask a poor boy like me to keep the change?"

I carried that attitude on till adulthood. I used to think that because I was of help to my friend, he too should carry me along so I can pass my exams like himself.

Later I realized that nobody owes me anything. If I want anything, I have to do the work and get it. In other words, I should never depend on someone else but myself for what I want in life.

The truth of the matter is this:

Nobody is coming for you. You are the only help you have. So stop living as though someone owes you something. They don't!

Living as though someone owes you anything will only make you a champion in the blame game. And trust me, blaming people will worsen your situation.

So take your life in your hands, roll up your sleeves, and work to earn whatever you need from life.


There is no excuse for failure

It will all be your fault.

Whether you fail or succeed, it is your fault. There is no excuse.

It is your fault that you didn't have the finances to take your children through school, it is your fault if you took them to the best school in the universe.

What you make of your life is up to you: You have no excuse.

I challenge you to start taking responsibility for the outcomes of your life. If you don’t, nobody else will help you pull your weight. It is all yours. And whether you fail or succeed, it is your fault.



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Joshua Idegbere


I am Joshua Idegbere and this is my column. Stories with actionable tips to help you make the most of your life, career and relationships. Welcome!







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