Things May Never Work out Your Way all the Time
If I would be asked what is the greatest lesson I would give to the young people who are growing after me, it will simply be the lesson that most of the time things will not turn out to be as they expect. I would tell them a million times that disappointment will rock their world a great deal.
If I would be asked what is the greatest lesson I would give to the young
people who are growing after me, it will simply be the lesson that most
of the time things will not turn out to be as they expect. I would tell
them a million times that disappointment will rock their world a great
A mother and daughter were travelling in an airplane. It happened that
the daughter was sitting in between her mother and another male
passenger seated at the window. As they approach for landing, the mother
requests the male passenger to exchange his seat with her daughter
because she enjoys seeing airplanes landing when travelling in them.
The male passenger politely declines the request. The mother is angry about
this turn of events but for me, it is the lesson the male passenger
insists on. He calmly replies, “In as much as I would love to let her
sit here and enjoy the view, I think it is important for your daughter
to learn that not always things will work her way.”
It had been a culture that every time they landed, whoever was seated at
the window seat often exchanged their positions for this little girl.
And it seems her mother had brought her up with the notion of giving her
everything she needed in exactly the way she needed it.
Now, here comes a person for the first in her life who disappoints her.
Probably she feels bitter and angry but after some time, she will begin
to accept that we are in a world full of disappointments. What the male
passenger did for the little girl was to teach her that a little room
for disappointment can save us a lot of anger and pain.
Let me use my example to put across this point. I was planning on a certain
undertaking this past week. In my mind, I perfectly laid out the
timelines within which I would accomplish whatever I wanted to in the
best way possible.
I only forgot one thing, some of the things I planned for needed the
input of people and organizations out of my control. It was only after
the outcomes from the people and organizations out of my control that it
dawned on me that things were not going to work my way. In this, I
failed to factor in room for disappointment as I usually do and as such
It then dawned on me that perhaps the greatest lesson in this world is the
lesson that things will certainly and most times not turn out as I
would expect them to. So, it is prudent that all people learn that the
world owes nobody any apology for the things that unexpectedly turn
against our expectations.
It is also important that we understand that often these things don’t
happen to us alone. For instance, I met this young girl who had been
left by a boyfriend who in her mind she had envisioned to be her
husband. When it turned out that they wouldn’t proceed with the
relationship, all she wanted was to commit suicide.
In another instance, another man was very bitter that his brothers who
were very successful and rich were not helping him. He believed that
their success meant an automatic help to him. Not once did he fathom
that the brother would not come to his aid.
If only he had learned to factor some room for disappointment in his world
such that when it did eventually happen to him, he wouldn’t have any
disappointments, and such lead to the harboring of such anger and
resentments as the ones he had.
It is thus important to learn that we may end up being betrayed by the
people we trusted the most. Don’t forget that we may end up not getting
that job that we are very best qualified for. We may miss that
opportunity to be recognized for the much good work we could be doing.
We may be allowed to lead and put in our very best effort to turn out the
best returns but it may end up being exactly the opposite of what we
could be expecting. We could walk up to that girl we like and talk the
best of ourselves out but they still deny us even if we have never been
Someone would have been occupying the first position in times of tests and
assessments. It doesn’t mean that that will be forever their place. You
would be the best corporate leader there has ever been but that doesn’t
mean that you could be turned down in your next undertaking.
You may have been succeeding in everything that you undertake all along.
Yet you need to be prepared for a possible failure in the future. In
simple terms, always be prepared that things may never go your way as
always deemed. You may not always get what you want. Always know this
and you will be happy in this life.
Originally published at https://dailyfocus.co.ke on September 23, 2022.
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