We have conceptualized sexiness with a certain body type. If you are overweight, being sexy sounds vague.

Some women would rather associate themselves with being beautiful than sexy. Feeling sexy is far more important in expressing one’s sexuality than looking sexy.

Sex appeal matters in relationships. And if it’s something we look for in a mate, it stands to reason others seek it in us.

Sometimes feeling sexy can be as easy as spending time with your body, taking pleasure to notice its curves and angles, feeling its softness. But most importantly, do it on your own terms.

If the reflection in your mirror does not give you sexual pleasure, fix it. However, it’s not your body that needs to be fixed. It’s your interpretation of it.

I took the liberty to get sexual orientation from my high-class escort friends because sex workers are sexually attractive.

So if you want to get a juicy tip on bedroom honky dorky, just approach your hooker buddy. They will give you the raw details on how to embrace your sexuality and use it to your advantage.

Below are some tips that can get your body and your crush running for the sheets.

1. Get his attention with bump and flatter

You know when you accidentally bump into someone at a grocery store, and then you apologize for being so clumsy? Well, now you can add a bit of flirting to your reaction.

You can laugh and say, “Oh, sorry. I become a total klutz around cute people.” He will be immediately flattered and respond with more intimate conversation. This trick always works for me.

Although sometimes, the guy will make you work for it and just responds with an awkward silence. If you’re trying to play it smooth, but you’re coming up short, embrace the awkwardness and just be cute as hell.

2. Send him a romantic text before a date

Women feel sexy when they know they have power over a man. And men like women who are interested in what they wear or present themselves.

If your want to get his adrenaline gushing down his legs, send him a complimentary text like, “You should wear that blue shirt tonight — it makes your eyes look amazing.” Or “I like the maroon color on you. It makes you sensational.”

A flirty text lets your crush know you’re thinking of them and will get them excited to see you later. Plus, it’s some sort of way to tell if they’re interested in you, to see if they’ve followed your advice.

3. Let your body speak for itself

Give flirting with your eyes whenever you are around him. Try to get into the habit of making eye contact, look him in the eye when you’re delivering a punchline, saying something meaningful, or ready to move to the next stage of the date.

Just make sure you don’t go overboard with it and practice it, so you don’t look creepy.

Keep your back straight and your chin tilted slightly down. It inspires confidence without looking haughty, which makes you look even more attractive.

4. Don’t be shy to show off your body figure

Sex appeal is about physical attributes, but with a pinch of glamour. Your fashion is a statement, and it enhances your personality. As a female, definitely consider pencil skirts and waist-defining sashes, belts, or pleating in both your date wear and lingerie.

Choose make-up that compliments your skin tone. A touch of red will make your lips look luscious. If you’re not into red from head to toe, try a red earring or necklace.

Pick a fashion style that will make you confident because confidence, self-assurance, and a little calmness are the best accessories to sexy attire.

5. Master your communication skill

Having a sexy appeal is about being desirable, attractive, and aspirational- mastering your ability to communicate skillfully.

Learn to read his mind by observing how he speaks and the pace of his body language. Listen to understand and not just to respond genuinely. Ask questions that indicate deep respect and curiosity.

You don’t always have to give good advice. Sometimes you just have to listen to his story. There is nothing more charming and romantic than allowing him to enjoy his moment with you.

6. Take care of your mental game

To look sexy, you need to feel sexy and truly understand what sex appeal is all about. Refuse to apologize for being a sexual person.

Stop overthinking about your body or physical appearance. Buy lingerie and sexy underwear, apply body lotions and perfumes and take steamy candlelit baths with massage oils. Do the things that make you feel sexy.

Ditch your self-bashing mindset and stop comparing yourself to a bikini model; it will only make things tough for you.

Appreciate your own asset and always remain confident. Your self-confidence and how well you feel in your own skin is the sexiest thing your crush will love about you.

Jessey Anthony is a motivational speaker, fitness coach and relationship expert who helps people become confident in themselves in any challenges they face in life. Sign up to my newsletter & more cool stuff.

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