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Who’s driving your . . .?

Depending on circumstances, they might show up as enablers or codependents. Regardless of the term that is used, these people prevent you from growing towards your potential in this lifetime. In order to move forward towards freedom, you must begin to teach people how you want to be treated.



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“You teach people how to treat you by what you allow, what you stop, and what you reinforce.” - Tony Gaskins

"Who’s driving your . . .?"

“How people treat other people is a direct reflection of how they feel about themselves.” - Paulo Coelho

"Who’s driving your . . .?"

“No one can drive us crazy unless we give them the keys.” - Doug Horton

Teach people how you want to be treated.


They will never know how until you provide them with the instructions.

Everything on the planet comes with instructions except this.

Depending on circumstances, they might show up as enablers or codependents. Regardless of the term that is used, these people prevent you from growing towards your potential in this lifetime.

Basically, they are well-intentioned and wonderful human beings however they believe that their mission in life is to enable or to be a codependent to someone.

Do not get sucked into this scenario.

If you do, you will never leave your comfort zone and someone else will always be driving your life.

Clearly communicate in a language that is straightforward and totally understandable without emotion. You should be the only driver of your life but we both know that this is not always the case.

Manipulators are everywhere and are excellent chameleons. Manipulators love these people that do not teach them how they want to be treated.

Without an instruction manual, manipulators can get whatever they want all the time by focusing on their weaknesses.

These people are just like piranhas.

In order to move forward towards freedom, you must begin to teach people how you want to be treated.

It’s called terms of engagement.

This is a must.

You must do this from the onset as no one can read your mind.

No one!

Be real and tell people who you really are from the very beginning.

You don’t have to be rude, intolerant, or stubborn but you must begin to be mentally tough.

Mentally tough implies that you understand emotional intelligence and compartmentalization. It's a lifelong journey and no one ever arrives.

Begin to think in a way that supports your self-esteem and in turn your approval seeking is no longer an issue with you.

It’s your journey.

It’s your life.

You are the driver of your life.

Now, start driving.

Carpe Momentum.

Yours in success,

Franco Cianflone


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FRANCO CIANFLONE B.Sc. Ed. M. Ed. LSC CS MENTAL TOUGHNESS FOR LIFE Certified Corporate Trainer, Educator, Business Consultant, Author & Entrepreneur. Franco Cianflone is a graduate of the internationally acclaimed Bill Gove Speech Workshop with a Corporate Speaker designation.
His extensive corporate training includes Bob Proctor, Paul Martinelli, and training seminars/sessions with Steve Siebold, John Maxwell, Les Brown, Tony Robbins, Mark Victor Hansen, and many others. He is the author of sixteen books to date and co-founder of Mini Bytes For The Brain.
Fifty years of Education and Business leadership compliments his mission to transform and catapult the results of individuals everywhere on the globe as far as Australia. His life mantra is,"Others will be looking at the fire while you are walking through the fire towards your victory and success”.


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