Why Childhood Memories Matter
My childhood still speaks to me
Yesterday, I was taking a drink with a friend. She was talking about the upheaval she was going through when something she said struck me:
“My childhood still speaks to me.”
It reminded me of something I like to talk about: Identity.
As we’re growing up, we have to learn to take responsibility, support ourselves, become competitive, not be frank, not cry… as playing disappears…
We tend to forget our inner child and her/his memories.
In reality, we have to pay attention to our memories because they are our identity.
Positive recollections are benevolent.
We like them because we all want to be lulled by pleasant feelings. We like thinking about them because we see ourselves as naive children who didn’t understand the surrounding adults’ challenges.
We miss this time when playing was the most important thing to do. Putting on a game with a friend, creating some magical stories, fighting against hurdles, dying, and being born again…
Sad memories are so important too.
I see so many people who are overwhelmed and broken by those kinds of memories. The problem is that if we keep them hidden, they can turn into monsters and demons.
Some ghosts haunt our subconscious and then one day they knock at the door and say “Hello, don’t be so happy, we are here, don’t forget us”… All of a sudden, they slash away at our confidence, and we become afraid and angry.
We have to honestly and bravely face them. Be brave like a kid who has to confront an imaginary monster. Be brave. Be brave and destroy them, or, better, USE them.
Memories that are tough, unjust, violent are as constructive as positive ones because as adults we constantly want to fill the huge gaps we feel. Listening to emotions from childhood memories pushes us to create the world we want to live in.
So If you let your inner child talk to you about her/his memories, let yourself go and feel them. The emotion you’ll get is just the raw material you’ll turn into gold.
Dear Reader, tell me what childhood memories determined who you are today?