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How To Make Yourself Valuable To Your Man

A real man loves a woman who has standards and is principled.


Joshua Idegbere

4 months ago | 2 min read


Apply this principle to keep your man

A real man loves a woman who has standards and is principled

Knowing how to make yourself indispensable to a man is the most important skill in relationship building.

Because the moment he stops seeing your importance, that is the beginning of the end of your relationship.

Unfortunately, most ladies go about this the wrong way. They believe that saying yes to a guy's every need keeps him in the relationship.

Yeses devalues you.

This doesn’t just apply to your man. It applies to every single person you’re in a relationship with. That’s to say, it is a life principle that works.

The more yeses to say to someone, the less important you make yourself seem to that person.

Always saying yes to someone, irrespective of who they are, tell them you don’t have a life of your own. And so you don't have your own schedule, that your time is not as valuable to you, that your life isn't much of a big deal to you.

People who have a life of their own are so busy and preoccupied with their lives that they say no to almost everything.

If you had your own life, you would turn down a lot so you can have enough time for yourself.

"The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything." Warren Buffett.

Never be that yes type of lady

We teach people how to teach us.

And that has a lot to do with what you allow or accept from your man.

If you always give in to whatever he wants, your man might be too complacent. He will not take you seriously. He’ll treat you with less respect than you deserve.

He’ll get offended when you later complain or deny him access after you’ve taught him that he’s unlimited access to your time, space, and your body.

Thus, never be that yes type of girlfriend. Instead, monitor your yeses, and learn to say no when you need to. Never, ever allow him to treat you less.

Have standards.

According to a study from the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin on American marriages, having high standards can lead to better, more satisfying marriages—but only if your significant other can actually live up to them.

If anyone can’t respect those standards allow them to go.

A real man loves a woman who has standards and is principled.

He knows that chances are high that if you could sometimes say no to them, you won’t tolerate nonsense from other guys. That signals some level of security in the relationship.

Never be that yes type of girl. There’s no better way to earn respect and keep being valuable and important in a relationship.

To your success in relationship,



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I am Joshua Idegbere and this is my column. Stories with actionable tips to help you make the most of your life, career and relationships. Welcome!







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